As promised in December, I'm going to expound on Dr. Robert Solomon's advice for reinventing romance. Steps two and three of the four, 'Open, honest communication and supporting each other's commitments.
When I wrote in December, about Dr. Solomon's tips for reinventing romance in modern times, I promised to expound on each tip in January. His book, Reinventing Romance, focused on an altruistic view of love that opens the lens of a relationship to allow for growth, change, endings, etc. The first step, he pointed out, is our willingness or desire to build a life a together.
You know how stirred up you get when you start talking about someone who is doing something you believe is negative or wrong? We're completely unaware of anyone or anything else when we're entangled in the story. And of course we feel right about our point of view.