When you think about the word-surrender-what images appear? For many, the face of surrendering is one of loss, resignation, or finality. By equating surrendering to giving up, aren't we giving up our power, a point of view, a belief, etc.? That certainly leaves us vulnerable to attack. So much for inner peace!
When we don't get our way, we're not happy. In the moments following a situation where our hopes or expectations have not been met, many of us react adversely. Two recent examples include the arrest of a disorderly actor, Reese Witherspoon and Liverpool's soccer player, Luis Sanchez, who bit his opponent's arm. Both people reacted strongly, harshly. Could they have rolled with the punches, handled the situation differently?
When we contemplate how we are at home or at work, we begin to see that much of what we say and do is automatic in nature, a reaction to something or someone else. But how would you know unless you looked? Every month for 2 years, I examined a different belief system to which I ascribed, from my beliefs about money to my beliefs about love.
Think of a practice as a way to strengthen a weak muscle. You stop practicing, the muscle goes soft. Think of a project having a beginning, middle and end.