Rolling With The Punches

How often have you heard the saying, "just let it roll off your back, like a duck letting the water roll off its back"?  The idea that we can actually let situations be without feeling the need to react is not new; you may be noticing an increased ability to
roll with the punches as you age.
 
When we don't get our way, we're not happy. In the moments following a situation where our hopes or expectations have not been met, many of us react adversely. Two recent examples include the arrest of a disorderly actor, Reese Witherspoon and Liverpool's soccer player, Luis Sanchez, who bit his opponent's arm. Both people reacted strongly, harshly. Could they have rolled with the punches, handled the situation differently?
 
We may not exert infantile behaviors like biting people, but we continue to perpetuate a slew of responses to let others know when we're dissatisfied. When we don't get what we want, we feel we have the right (in the moment) to hurt the other person, wresting the control we tell ourselves we've lost. What propel us to say or do something nasty are the learned behaviors we can change.
 
What would it take for you to let situations roll on by without feeling the need to take a bite out of someone for something he/she said or did?
 
This week try rolling with the punches, no matter what the punch is, unless it is illegal, immoral or fattening. Let me know how you roll.

Posted on April 23, 2013 and filed under April 2013.