Radical Acceptance


Women extend themselves to serve, leaning in to listen, embracing others with support. To our detriment we often define ourselves in relationship to others. For example, if you find yourself feeling that a partner will complete you then the message you're sending is that you're not whole. When we look outside ourselves for happiness, we torpedo our self-esteem.
 
Having observed coaching clients struggle to balance their self- esteem with a relentless desire to achieve, I am sensitive to the tenuous relationship we have to self-acceptance. Guiding clients to  accept life as it comes despite their inclination to fix, alter or control the outcomes has resulted in their increased confidence to experience themselves as whole.  
 
This week why not explore what happens when you think about acceptance of a situation, or a person, even yourself, without judging a situation good or bad, or yourself/others as right or wrong?  On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the highest) how well do you simply accept yourself in the varied domains of your life?
 
PS. You have to stop struggling first in order to even see what's right in front of you.

Posted on March 12, 2013 and filed under March 2013.