Nice and Easy Does It Every Time

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

"The problem now of course is
To simply hold your horses
To rush would be a crime
Cause nice and easy does it every time."    Frank Sinatra
 
As we move through the holidays and towards the final issues of the Healer Coaching Tips, it's time to talk turkey about reducing stress and being happy.
 
You know how stirred up you get when you start talking about someone who is doing something you believe is negative or wrong? We're completely unaware of anyone or anything else when we're entangled in the story. And of course we feel right about our point of view.
 
It's "their" fault we tell ourselves. By the time we realize we're ruining our own days by how/what we think, we've lost track of how many days, weeks or months have passed. How many of us silently blame the world for ruining our happiness? 'It's just the way it is', we assert.
 
We think that by telling the same story over and over again we're reducing the stress. But we're not!
 
There's no freedom or ease when we make our happiness dependent on the actions of others, the events or situations that occur, how we or our partners feel, the ups or downs of the marketplace, etc.
 
So how do we get happy? Nice and easy does it. Our happiness depends on the practices we do and the orientation to which we align ourselves. It can be as simple as Let It Be. The mantra becomes your guiding light, your benchmark to observe, as you correct and monitor your conduct until you notice that you are happier on the inside-- no matter what's going on around you.
 
If you've set goals for being happy before, and spun out of the practice, don't give up. We all want to be happy. There are some methods that work better than others. After many tries, I've learned the methods that work.  Some, I've already shared in the tips. 
 
Working with a coach helps us get unstuck from behaviors and thoughts that hamper the desire to be happy, the deep wish to assist others to be happier. Don't sit in the corner. Call me. 

Posted on January 7, 2014 and filed under January 2014.