Love, Love, Love

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

"Love is all there is...." The Beatles
 
 As we tip our hats to celebrate a new year, waving goodbye to an old year (already), I wanted to share about a friend of mine who claimed he is done with marriage, and commitments--relationships in general. He's enjoying his free time, his ability to come and go at leisure. 
 
This got me thinking because I am not in the same place. In fact, I'm quite curious to tackle relationships, both work and intimate partnerships, as I feel certain that the person I've become is a lot kinder, easier to be around, and certainly less harmful.
 
James Flaherty, my first coaching teacher, distilled Dr. Robert Solomon's famous book, About Love to four (4) instructions for those interested in making love last.
 
That's not to say things don't change, people don't change, etc., but if we set a strong intention at the start of a relationship, and keep correcting and monitoring our conduct throughout, we have a good chance of reinventing romance for our times.
 
1.     Build a life together.   
2.     Support each other's commitments.
3.     Engage in open, honest communication. 
4.     Don't intentionally harm the other person.
 
At first glance these four ideas seem simple enough, but I can honestly say that I've not always been willing to build a life with someone. And though I didn't mean for my words to create harm, I often failed to do damage control during a storm in my relationship(s). Making up afterwards is okay, but what if you lived your life intentionally, mindfully, taking care to love others, no matter what arises!
 
During the last few issues of the Healer Coach Tips, I will explore each of these four instructions in greater depth.
 
If you have a success story you'd like to share where you have embodied these teachings in your relationship, either in the work place or at home, please email me at rpost@thehealercoach.com.
 
Happy Trails...

Posted on December 31, 2013 and filed under December 2013.