Can I Get A Witness

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

The Healer Coach Weekly Tips

"No matter what our achievements might be, we think well of ourselves only in rare moments. We need people to bear witness against our inner judge, who keeps book on our shortcomings and transgressions. We need people to convince us that we are not as bad as we think we are."   Eric Hoffer
 
When Desda Zuckerman, my CoreIndividuation teacher, conducted a simple ritual where we publicly acknowledged the receipt of a healer's mantle, it allowed us to accept the possibility of being healers.
 
Initially each person walked alone to the front of the room, while Desda recited a short benediction. But something was missing so we began moving towards Desda like a single body, huddling around them, arms linked. It's as if we tied ourselves both to the sentiment of what was being said and the opportunity to reduce the boundaries between us.
 
None of what transpired felt literal, logical or even known to us. Initially there was some nervous giggling in the back of the room as some of us were scared. We did not feel ready to accept what was being offered. But at the same time, we wanted to participate, so we surrendered our fears, softening the internal tension (stories) allowing the mystery of the moment to blanket us.
 
There is an "energetic" or " spiritual" shift that occurs when we're witnessed. We kept calibrating our awareness so we could fully receive what was being offered. As soon as you start to make up stories about what's transpiring you lose the sweetness of the moment. The idea is to stay present, stay focused on the now.
 
When I lead coaching clients in a gratitude or "remembrance" practice, they release the emotional and sometimes logical coverings to which they cling, so they can lean into the ritual with a sense of grace, not with bare knuckles clenched.
 
Rites conducted in a community allow everyone present to connect. Even during organizational development programs, I find ways to use rites or rituals to cultivate teamwork approaches, breaking down the cemented thinking to which individuals adhere. As a result innovation and partnership arises. 
 
Each time we mark a rite of passage, a completion of a project, we're allowing people to rest in their accomplishments before they tackle the next hurdle. Throughout history, all cultures have found ways to foster community through rituals. Despite the availability to connect moment- to- moment via technology, we're still hungry to be seen. Having someone design or lead the ceremony gives us permission to give and receive, two very human traits. 
 
If you're interested in learning more about this service, contact me at rpost@thehealercoach.com.

Posted on December 10, 2013 and filed under December 2013.