Who even has time to think about busyness because we’re all so busy?
“Doing what?” you ask. The list is endless and like a snake that can bite even after it has been decapitated, we find innovative ways to remain busy despite the loss of food, sleep, companionship, etc.
We clean up one pile on the desk only to replace it with a new one. In the middle of the night we jolt ourselves to wakefulness because the intruder we believe is creeping around the house is actually our own mind/stress commandeering us away from sleep. “How can you rest when there’s so much to be done?”
What triggered my recent decent into busyness hell was a decision to get active on Twitter, a social medium of extraordinary proportions that can keep even the most mindless person awake. I set the intention to maximize my visibility on Twitter. Not that I knew what to do, other than speak to my passions and skills, inviting other “tweebs” to join me for classes or Healer Coach sessions. Initially few paid any attention but in the past six weeks my numbers have exploded.
Busyness comes with a strong sense of responsibility, and depending on your cultural beliefs you will define responsibility in ways that (can) leave you tied up in knots taking care of others and things. This is not a complaint against Twitter, but rather I’m asserting that busyness is not relegated to white- collar professionals. All of us, whatever our profession succumb to the infectious nature of this busyness.
So what is this scourge? It’s the unobtrusive and at times kindly visitor who takes over the whole house/mind with his/her belongings, books, balled up wads of Kleenex stuffed in couches, and corners. Now I’m tweeting 5-10 times a day sun-up to sundown. Tweeting is my latest addiction to busyness.
What had me stop in my tracks today is the wondrous question:
“Why am I doing this instead of focusing on what makes me really happy?”
From reading other tweets I’ve learned that Twitter is a growth business with resources providing specified marketing approaches to grow your Twitter numbers. Tweeting alone is not sufficient. A “tweeb” engages followers via Tweeting; then we continue to cultivate opportunities offsite to chat or purchase. Tweeting is the lure. Getting folks to engage is a whole other prospect.
The contagion of busyness results in increased stress, as we have to learn how to integrate other social media tools to best market products and services. I’m not saying this can’t be done, but we must choose the path we wish to take based on our vision of what’s worth doing.
Busyness can serve as a distraction to what truly matters. By the time we wake up to what’s going on around us, this unobtrusive visitor we so innocently invited into our homes, is now suggesting we move out because there’s not enough room for both of us. How did this happen? When did this happen?
In case you miss the signs, cause you’re too busy- Beware. Busyness is a habit to which we accustom ourselves. How do you recognize and release our attachment to being busy?
1. Stop. Put yourself on pause for an hour. Rest in nature.
2. Once rested and away from the stimulation, ask yourself what is your vision (corporate or personal)? More simply, ask: “What matters (to me) right now in this moment?
If the answer is tweeting or engaging in activities that truly make you happy and serve others, great. If not, you have two choices:
a. You can change your attitude about how you approach activities so they do not result in increased stress, OR
b. You can change the activities to ones that more clearly align to your heart- held values.
There is no right or wrong here. Simply note when you’re snagged by the Busyness contagion and get healthy.