Taming The Angry Lion

Destructive emotions are not relegated to one group, one race or one class of people. It would be great if we could simply assign blame to one group. But we all experience the full range of anger from the slight irritations we feel when someone cuts us off on the road to the strong raging fires we set when we feel wronged or misunderstood.

Posted on September 20, 2016 .

The Theory of Life

For some period of time, formulae work. Unfortunately something changes and the formula no longer works. At different points in time, we’ve all achieved a modicum of happiness working the formulae. But didn’t you find that the happiness you had didn’t last? Tempered by more striving for happiness we may have opted from Doing to Having and then back again.

Posted on November 2, 2015 .

Why Retreat?

My earliest memories of retreating are associated with military tactics. Probably watched too many Westerns and war movies as a kid. There was always an overwhelmed, somewhat bloodied and fatigued band of brothers pulling back from the action to rest, dress their wounds, and rethink current strategies.

Posted on October 26, 2015 .

Letting Go

I decided to replace doubt with faith, a starting point on any journey. By reframing doubt to joy, anxiety to patience, I gave myself permission to simply enjoy the passage of time.

Posted on October 14, 2015 .

Getting to Know You

"One type of negative thought begets another. So suddenly snagged by anxiety, greed, anger, or doubt we believe we’re justified to take action because the thoughts themselves feel so overwhelmingly real."

Posted on July 29, 2015 .

Summertime & Living Is Easy...

Each time I return from a day, weekend or week of meditation, I feel as if I’m running again on all eight cylinders.I can actually hear the wisdom rising from deep within. I don’t have to force myself to figure out anything. Granted, there are some pre- retreat jitters including the fear that I will miss something “out there,” with no cell phone, iPad, or computer to utilize.

The Scourge of Busyness

Busyness comes with a strong sense of responsibility, and depending on your cultural beliefs you will define responsibility in ways that  (can) leave you tied up in knots taking care of others and things. This is not a complaint against Twitter, but rather I’m asserting that busyness is not relegated to white- collar professionals. All of us, whatever our profession succumb to the infectious nature of this busyness. 

Posted on May 7, 2015 .

Squandering Our Most Precious Resource: Love

 Love is the capacity to take care, to protect, to nourish. If you are not capable of generating that kind of energy toward yourself-if you are not capable of taking care of yourself, of nourishing yourself, of protecting yourself, it is very difficult to take care of another person. Love is a practice. Love is truly a practice.

Posted on March 13, 2015 .

Happy Days Are Here Again

This is mind training. Each moment I tell myself it's not possible to be happy all the time, I think of rice farmers entranced with Buddha's teachings. If an illiterate rice farmer can free himself from mental discontent, certainly, I can. We can!

Posted on November 20, 2014 .

Re-Kindling Passion

When we speak of passion our thoughts go directly to sex. If our sex lives are good or even promising we dismiss the value of passion in any other domain of our daily existence. We believe that our passion is embedded in our relationships.

Posted on October 22, 2014 .

What is the Relationship between Mindfulness and Mastery?

I use mindfulness meditation as a practice to master my mental states, particularly those strong afflictive emotions, including desire, anger, greed, lust, doubt, and anxiety so as I move through the world, in and out of stores, cars, classes, coaching sessions, business meetings, illness and aging, I can remain peaceful and kind, both to others and to myself.

Posted on September 25, 2014 .

Mastery & Mindfulness

"By learning to lead in our own lives, we're taking on a master's journey. When we're leading and taking full responsibility for our own ship (our minds) we are happier."

Posted on September 22, 2014 .

Strengthening Listening Through Mindfullness

What stymies our efforts to fulfill a vision is the attachment to our internal and external chatter, the busyness mind to which we succumb. Although we do our best to manage the relationship to chatter, we are often at its mercy.

Our listening is often like a cul-de-sac, where words and pictures enter, circle around a neighborhood of thoughts, then leave the same way they entered. Nothing stays.

Posted on April 30, 2014 .

Completions

Completion offers us the chance to acknowledge endings, opening the door to what’s next. We may agree that everything ends, even as we argue for the durability of things. We agree that change is part of life, even as we strive for stability, and constancy.

Posted on February 26, 2014 .

A Conversation About Ethics

Ethics is not a sexy topic. We’d much rather focus on our business, friendships, families, lovers, possessions, etc.

But ethics pertains to our conduct- our thoughts, speech and actions; and stands on the platform that everything we think, say and do is a direct result of our mental states (our mind). 

Posted on February 7, 2014 .

The Path To Mastery

“The lower doctor heals the sickness, the median doctor heals the whole person; the higher doctor heals human society.” Sun Sze-Mo, Chinese physician 8th century AD.

Posted on February 5, 2014 .